Lots of my friends ask me this question: "What is your first principle in life?". Now, I would like to share the answer with you: "Fairness". In fairness, I trust.
I have seen a lot of people come into life with an attitude that there is always a shortcut to get something. So, when they want anything, they always seek for a shortcut first. I would say, this is not a healthy attitude. There is no free lunch, and every meal has to be paid till the last cent. If you don't pay now, you will have to pay later with a great interest. Or worse, your children have to pay for that.
People like to look at the bright side of successful, happy persons. All lucky dudes that I know all have to pay first, and then get the meals later.
Let's take Napoleon Bonaparte as an example. He became general at age of 27, and from that on, he advanced to the crown firmly. Few people know that he had to be a loner for the whole time in his schooling. No kid liked him; he didn't have a good social life then. But at the moments that he is alone, he prepared for his bright days. He studies artillery at great details. The boy read a lot about the things which are crucial for his future career, and his ambition urge him to pay for the greatest meal everyday. The decisiveness, multitasking skill, and genius military strategy are not come from nowhere for Napoleon. He did over pay for it.
Let's take Salvador Dali, the greatest surrealism painter ever. His paintings are always as a laugh at reality. The impossible details, the perfect merge of objects from different dimensions in his painting always stroke people's vision and sense a great deal. Dali is obviously a genius. This already shows in his very early childhood. But the genius Dali has to pay for his price as well. And again, no cheaper than what Napoleon did.
Above stories are for men, guns, and arts. How's about women, flower, and love?
Since the day human appear on the Earth, there is always a virtual split among men and women. People tend to think men and women are from different worlds, and different rules applied on them. I also believe so. However, there is still a common truth in which both genders have to obey. If one wants something, one has to pay for it. That's the only way to achieve anything permanently.
Women love flower and gentleness. They dream about their princes, cattle, and good time. The dreams are sweet and they deserve them. But again, the dreams need to be paid to be true. Loneliness is hard. Distance is painful. Arguing is harsh. Jealousy is poisonous. And love has all of that. There is no "something for nothing"*. If one cannot suffer loneliness and distance, one cannot appreciate the union time. If one cannot take argument constructively, once cannot appreciate the differences. And if one haven't been drown in jealousy, one cannot understand that, love is a verb*, and don't give up if you haven't fight yet.
At the end of the day, what affect human being happiness most are: Love, war, business, and politics. These are very different in nature. However, I notice that they share a very fundamental common: "you risk more, when you risk nothing". Ah Ha!, risk is always among what needed to be paid to achieve true happiness. That's why we don't see a lot of truly happy people. And that's why we have never seen a truly happy person with an absence of courage. For how hard you already work. For how bad you already suffer. Risk is in the price. And again, what need to be paid has to be paid.
The principle has been appreciated. Then, what we need to do?
For men with great ambitions, I urge you to over pay for your dream, and be ready to take risk once the chance comes.
For women with sweet dreams, easier than ever, email, cell-phone, chat, internet make holding different relationships at once is just an option. Men, by nature always want to be hunter and prefer polygamy. So, don't be a fool. I urge you to stick with the man you already love and already love you and be willing to pay the price that Love requires up-front. And if you pay well to the right man, fruitful results will come, true happiness will come, since you already pay everything, including risk.
